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     Edutainment updated 1 month, 1 week ago 5 Members · 6 Posts
  • Chamyzee

    May 23, 2020 at 2:14 pm

    I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ”roughing” it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

    I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ”abroad levels”. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn’t want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ”euphoria” phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

    She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ”gra gra” I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

    The popular threat is usually ”I will end your career”. I wasn’t taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

    I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

    I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she’s waiting to see what I’d do when I see a man on top of her.

    My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

    I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

    For now, I don’t know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.



    Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

  • jahdiel

    May 24, 2020 at 9:57 am

    I don’t know why many guys will prefer to leave their country women to go and marry outside their nativity. If you’re looking for greener pastures, are you also looking for greener pussy too even if it doesn’t exist? Wtf is wrong with our guys especially those ones that have this kind of thinking? May your momma’s gods lead you to choose right though

  • ignachuks

    May 28, 2020 at 7:14 pm

    @jahdiel ……I don’t know where you are writing from, but if you had traveled outside your country to look for greener pasture like you rightly put it. Then know that all that traveled did not do that because of greener pussy. But, because they wanted something good for their family which sometimes it worked out fine for some. While some, it didn’t work out and that is what we call life.

    • jahdiel

      May 28, 2020 at 8:13 pm

      You’re very correct. But at the same time, I did not meant everyone who traveled for greener pastures also went in search of greener pussy too. At the same time, there are many stories of people using their white counterparts to get their green card, init?

  • Abigee

    May 29, 2020 at 1:02 am

    Na wa oh

  • Edutainment

    May 29, 2020 at 10:01 pm


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